My role is the same as most mothers with several small children.This church has been extremely supportive and respectful of me in that decision.I love my husband and am grateful for the ministry the Lord has given us.Let me begin by sharing our current ministry circumstances. The following letter is from my current pastor’s wife, Holly. I hope it will help you as you seek to support, love, and respect your pastor and his wife as they shoulder the responsibilities and burdens of shepherding the church daily. But, I did have fun asking several current and former pastors’ wives to share their words of wisdom with me—just in case God has this in store for me.One day, in a room filled with young preacher boys, Dr.Taylor cautioned us about the temptations we would be facing. (Fifteen years after she sat in my office making herself available to the young preacher, while preaching in another state, I spotted that woman and her husband–the same husband whose antics had given her cause to seek my counsel originally–in the congregation.
Though keeping the home running smoothly may seem mundane, this is an important ministry to Brian.We’re getting close to completing our first decade in pastoral ministry. We’re in our mid-thirties and our children are currently 7, 3, and 2.So, the things that I’ll share reflect the context of a mother of three small children.I would encourage you to do the same–pastor’s wife or not! • Be careful what you read concerning being a pastor’s wife.My spiritual gift is service, which means much of my involvement is behind the scenes. We will serve people best if we’ll just be ourselves. This will look different for each family but here are a few suggestions: 1) Watch out for him. There are lots of negative statistics and studies telling how hard it can be. Read people who are positive and offer help for getting through the tough stuff.Many a man of God has sabotaged his own ministry by sexual sin. “They lay with the women who served at the doorway of the tent of meeting” ().