We will tell you what you need in a relationship, where you screwed up (without knowing it) in past relationships and a customized action plan to make your next relationship successful.We’ve all heard about the bad behaviour of men who date online: the married ones just out for casual sex, the ‘successful businessmen’ who turn out to be minicab drivers and the ‘spontaneous risk takers’ who are, in truth, crashing bores.I didn’t want to make a big deal of it, but I hoped a brief summary of my marital status would explain my presence online.I also hoped, selfishly, it would persuade my dates that I wasn’t to blame for my single status; that there was a legitimate, if tragic, reason.I’ve had hundreds of people view my profile, yet only ten dates in the four months I’ve been internet dating.
But she, like all the others, wanted more commitment than I am willing to give and so it didn’t go any further.
The women have all made the first move: I’m a gentleman and would never initiate sex, although I suspect they were only doing so to win my affection.
The build-up is rarely racy: one woman cooked me chicken casserole last month before kissing me on the sofa.
One woman I met in a bar early on claimed haughtily that she’d been out with a man called Mike the day before and was meeting another called Steve the following day. One 45-year-old sent me a picture of herself six months ago posing stark naked in bed.
I slept with two women in those early months; both after our first dates. The sense of rejection following such physical intimacy was awful, prompting me to instigate a ‘no sex on the first date’ rule. Last year, I uploaded a better profile picture; women, I learned, like men to look moody. For the past two months, I’ve been seeing a writer four years my senior. I have also written a book, How To Start Dating And Stop Waiting, which is being published on Valentine’s Day.
Bill Addison, 67, is a retired aircraft engineer from Stockport, Cheshire.