The submissive likes getting slapped (see also: “Painslut”).E is for Edgeplay Edgeplay refers to the risky shit—the more taboo (or baddest bitch, depending on who you’re talking to) end of the spectrum of BDSM activities.
It can involve sticking a needle (temporarily) through an erogenous zone such as the nipple or... Orgasm denial is next-level sexual anticipation for those who love a throbbing clit or a boner that’s been hard forever just dying to get off—which is to say, almost everyone. Sometimes the queen will sit on her submissive’s face for like, hours.If you take away one fact from this guide, it should be that even though the dominant partner in D/S relationship may be slapping, name-calling, and spitting on the submissive, BDSM and D/S relationships are all about erotic power exchange, not one person having power over another.The submissive gets to set their boundaries, and everything is pre-negotiated.Only get bloody with a partner who knows what they’re doing without a doubt and has been tested for STIs. G is for Golden Showers A golden shower is when you lovingly shower your partner with your piss. H is for Hard Limits Hard limits are sexual acts that are off-limits.It’s high time for the BDSM community reclaimed this word back from Donald Trump, who, may I remind you, allegedly paid sex workers to pee on a bed that Obama slept in out of spite. Everyone has their own, and you have to discuss these boundaries before any BDSM play.The dominant partner may bring the submissive ice for any bruises, but it’s important to know that aftercare involves emotional care as well as physical.