“I thought maybe with grandchildren and as successful as Gene became (he was elected to the NFL Hall of Fame in 1987) time would heal,” she said.“I wonder, when a birthday or a holiday comes up, do they think about me?Because you can’t depend on their emotional support right now, you must find more support. Find a spiritual leader who has dealt with similar issues. Find experts who have helped children work through relationships where family members have withheld love or set conditions on it.
Eventually the disapproval, lack of acknowledgement and disrespect overwhelmed my boyfriend, and he chose to break up with me. How can I date people of my choosing and maintain a relationship with my parents? You can hate that they are racist, but you can’t hate them.
As you get older and become more independent, you’ll have more control.
While you won’t need your parents’ financial support in the future, you will always want their emotional support.
As one commenter wrote: “No amount of promised deliciousness will overcome such mid-evil bigotry.” The odd part is, Upshaw says as a parent, she has some understanding for the initial reaction.
When she announced she was leaving, she and Gene had only been dating for eight months— without her parents’ knowledge.
It is hard to believe in this day and age.” Although this is a operatic family tragedy, it’s also very much a San Francisco story.