I also hoped, selfishly, it would persuade my dates that I wasn’t to blame for my single status; that there was a legitimate, if tragic, reason.
Kate had suffered a sudden brain haemorrhage a year earlier in September 2006.
Four dates have ended up in bed; three after just one date.
The women have all made the first move: I’m a gentleman and would never initiate sex, although I suspect they were only doing so to win my affection.
I slept with two women in those early months; both after our first dates. The sense of rejection following such physical intimacy was awful, prompting me to instigate a ‘no sex on the first date’ rule. Last year, I uploaded a better profile picture; women, I learned, like men to look moody. For the past two months, I’ve been seeing a writer four years my senior. I have also written a book, How To Start Dating And Stop Waiting, which is being published on Valentine’s Day.
Steve Gormill, 42, is a divorced health and safety adviser from Glasgow. His marriage of 13 years, to Nicole, 42, a teacher, broke down in 2009. After I’d put my son to bed, a stunning woman with dark hair caught my attention on the dating site.
For the last few months, I have been seeing a chef my age I met on the site. Before we even met, she admitted she’d come to snoop through the windows of my house to check I was above board. The next day I changed my profile to read ‘widowed a few months ago’.
I wanted to move back to Britain and we agreed it was best for my son to come with me.
He has been internet dating since he and his wife of seven years, Christabel, 49, a writer, separated in 2008. But in the flesh she was plain and dumpy, not sylph-like and pretty, and as soon as I spotted her waiting for me in a bar in Canterbury for our first date in January 2010, it was clear she had doctored her picture. It seemed more convenient than using the lonely hearts columns and I felt I was too old to chat up women in bars and clubs.
Incensed, I walked up to her and roared ‘You’re not tall and thin! I stated clearly on my profile ‘my past is part of me’ because Christabel and I remain great friends. My longest relationship was with Alison, a 50-something financial broker I met online in July 2010.
But I didn’t have a chance because on her profile, she stated: ‘All my children are over 18.’In other words, I need not apply because my son would be too young for her.
I’ve had hundreds of people view my profile, yet only ten dates in the four months I’ve been internet dating.
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