So, how do you avoid committing sexual sin, how do you remain pure? So, until you’re actually married, then she becomes your wife and then you can relate to her as a wife, which includes, of course, a sexual relationship.Until that stage, you must treat her as a mother, treat her as a sister.So, I changed my phone settings to only access websites I needed for work.Also, I had a close friend of mine regularly ask me how I was doing.God doesn’t just let us sin and just get away with it, right. I think it’s helpful to go to 1 Timothy and to just see Paul’s breakdown there of “treat younger women as sisters, older women as mothers in absolute purity”.We often bring those consequences into marriage and I think often those consequences we deal with are of the actions we took, the sins we committed in that dating stage. So that gives us this breakdown of, if she’s not your wife, she’s either your sister or your mother.It gives you the opportunity to do some things that would become more difficult after marriage, and properly prepare for marriage if that is your goal. In every kind of clinical issue that psychologists deal with, relationships are a big part of the picture in some way.
It is available in both You Tube and Facebook formats.And somehow dating, pursuing marriage has become really, really difficult. Two people would indicate interest in one another, and in some way you’d start as friends, and at some point you’d ask the awkward question, and you’d go on a date, and you’d realize you’d have to have that question, that conversation too, hey, are we dating now, that kind of stuff. Somewhere along the way and probably Josh Harris has something to do with this, with , somehow it became really, really complicated.And then the patriarchy movement came along with this idea that you needed to do courtship, that that was the right way to date. So, as Christians, I think we just need to kind of break it down and make it simple again.I was doing a radio show one day when a young woman called in and said she didn’t know what to do with her boyfriend. But that didn’t stop me from seeking affirmation and significance from guys.When I asked what she meant, she said that she was struggling with whether to break up or to keep going, get more serious, and move toward marriage. I truly believed that one day I was going to meet my Prince Charming and we would live happily ever after. These vows of preparation, priority, pursuit, partnership, purity, and prayer are the vows that make marriages work long past the wedding. But, years of friendship became a wonderful marriage. Purity is way less about not doing something, and way more about doing something. Full of emotion, I realized how holy marriage really is.